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Posted: 08/20/17 11:08pm Link  |  Quote  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Never thought I would be in this position but I am...wife needs help getting out of wheel chair and onto the toilet. Then off the toilet and back in her wheel chair.

At the hospitals, usually we can find a bathroom that has only one toilet in it and lots of room. No problems.

But sometimes we have to use restrooms that have maybe one or two handicap stalls and multiple regular stalls. I help her out of wheel chair then onto toilet. If there is enough room for me and her wheel chair I just wait in stall with her. And when not enough room in the stall I leave and when she is ready she calls me on my phone to come get her, to transfer from toilet back to wheel chair.

Last Fri at a hosp we've never been to before, a lady saw me in the women's room and went nuts calling me all kinds of stuff, was so happy to give my ears a break when she was going to get security.

My question....At rest stops on the freeway especially WA state I've seen signs saying to the effect that it is...

OK for the opposite to assist someone in the rest room.

Does anybody know that law and where to find it. I've looked and can't find it. I would like to carry a copy for the next time, just in case.

Any other info would be helpful.

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Posted: 08/21/17 12:00am Link  |  Quote  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

I believe it's part of the ADA. Your wife has a right to bring necessary assistance (you) into the restroom. I would simp!y tell someone who complains that your wife requires your assistance and if they have a problem they can contact xxxx (insert any disability association as desired - it doesn't have to be one that relates to your wife's disability).


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Posted: 08/21/17 04:19am Link  |  Quote  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Sorry you had that experience. I would not have thought a thing of it myself. More power to you. It's tough when a spouse/partner/child needs help. We're all human. We do what we have to. My DH is disabled, but does not require any assistance. I don't know what the ADA says, but I'm guessing what was mentioned is true. . . she can bring any assistance she needs. But common sense should prevail to begin with.

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Posted: 08/21/17 07:32am Link  |  Quote  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Yes, you have the right to assist your wife, unless that assistance rises to an "unreasonable" level. An unreasonable level example would be claiming you need to assist your wife in a communal shower at the same time the junior high school girls volleyball team is showering. It would be unreasonable because showers are not emergencies and an alternative time could be arranged.
As for signage you request, not required by law. As a practical matter, the world would be one great big sign if we had to put up signs for every situation that could possibly arise.
Finally, the ADA only covers the relationship between business and the disabled. The public can be as crude, inconsiderate, nasty, appalling and downright stupid as they want.

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Similarly, I announce myself when I enter a rest facility with my wife, or assist her at a store dressing room. American Disabilities Act (ADA) does give legal protection, but does not protect you/us from idiots. I've never been put in a situation like you describe, and a response of "thank you for your cooperation" has usually been sufficient.

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That was a very (SAD) female who said that!! You were not trying to do any peeping!

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SO sorry this happened to you and I can appreciate all the work you go through to keep your wife enjoying life.


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You have a legal right to be there. See ADA guide lines. Who can say what the womans problems are?


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Just a thought, but have you considered taking your disabled wife into the men's room instead? Might not cause as much of an uproar from the ill-informed.

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Op here...Thanks for all the replies. 99.9 percent of people have been great. Holding doors open or trying to help in some way. This hosp wing we were at, was the nero wing. So maybe this lady was there for a follow up appointment because of her brain?

Thanks for other hints. No we haven't thought about using the mens room, but good idea. As far peeking, I hope you were kidding ...nothing to peak at but bathroom door stall?

"Similarly, I announce myself when I enter a rest facility with my wife"

We're going to start doing the same thing.

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